There is a moment that happens in coaching when everything seems to stand still. A moment in the process when the light in a client’s eyes changes. An awakening, a realisation, a deep knowing. I often feel it with a chill
Powerful Coaching Questions
The Yin and Yang of Getting Stuff Done
The beautiful, paradoxical Taoist phrase: “Wu Wei” roughly translates to “the action of non action”. I was exploring this with a client recently, when she said to me:
In The Nothing, Something Happens
The void was vast. A space that stealthily crept in and compressed me with its weight. Heavy and bleak like the winter around me, I felt empty and lost. What should I do? My inner compass spun around furiously with no north to anchor
The Beauty Of Mornings
“I have noticed that when all the lights are on, people tend to talk about what they are doing – their outer lives. Sitting round in candlelight or firelight, people start to talk about how they are feeling – their
The crisis of change
Change is constant and there are some changes we seek, creating a sense of adventure and fulfilling desires. But some changes are involuntary, running deep and cutting to the core of our identity. These kind of changes leave us questioning the meaning of our lives
Why Less Is Really More…
Have you ever tried a morning routine? If you are interested in personal development you won’t have escaped the myriad of suggestions online about how to create a successful morning routine. There is no doubt that in today’s fast-paced world,
Lessons In Love
I’m a natural learner, not in an academic sense, more of a ‘lessons from life’ kind of learner. I love to take the experiences of my life and interpret the teachings they offer me. I dive deeply into my emotions
How To Build Emotional Strength
The collapse Above the constant hum of circling city traffic, the Singapore sky was bright and cloudless. Humidity clung heavily in the air leaving a damp sheen on my skin, and as the day dawned, so did the realisation that
Advance Your Practice
Are you ready to expand your capacity to work with people? As a practitioner of people, either a people leader in business, a coach or facilitator, you know the importance of constantly evolving your own personal development. You’ve already dived
Ten Signs You’re Heading For Burnout
Do you find your diary is crammed from the moment you start work? Perhaps you’re already checking emails over breakfast while you’re getting the kids off to school or squeezing in calls on your commute to the office. Being constantly
How To Come Home To Yourself
There is a part of me that remembers the wisdom of the land and yearns to be connected to nature. When I lived in Singapore I became starved of this earthy truth. Several years of weekly country hopping across Asia,
Stressed And Anxious? What To Do, When You Don’t Know What To Do
Are you feeling stressed and anxious? When you feel stressed and anxious, you can lose your sense of what to do to get back to a balanced and calm place. For even the most competent person, simple day to day
Become The Master Of Your Own Health
Introducing the Pure Pause, a detox retreat with a difference The festive season can leave us feeling full, and the turn of the calendar brings with it a renewed determination to focus on our health and wellbeing. But it’s not just
Finding Yourself After A Break Up
The pain cracked him, I saw the man I loved torn in two as I broke the news. I was leaving. It felt devastating for us both. The inevitable question, “why?” asked with downcast eyes, and a deep knowing that
How To Find Inner Peace
When was the last time you experienced silence? There is so much noise around us these days, it can be difficult to find peace and quiet. Yet even in the quietest of moments it may not feel quiet and peaceful
You Can’t Hold Onto Happiness
Watching the sunrise over Bangkok’s city skyline I felt it radiating through my body. That elusive feeling which is so precious – happiness. In spite of the intense traffic which meant I was late for a client meeting, I could
How To Combat FOMO (The Fear Of Missing Out)
Do you ever find yourself dropping something you wanted to do, heading off to do something else more exciting instead; only to find when you get there the allure of the tantalising new offer didn’t meet up to your hopes
How To Naturally Reduce Stress At Work
Your guide to naturally reducing stress at work Nature is not square There is nothing perfectly geometrical in our universe, which means perfect squares don’t exist in Nature. The closest nature comes to creating cubes are the intricate structures that form
Finding Freedom In Truth
We often play hide and seek with ourselves. Veiling the truth with an invisible hope that doesn’t exist. At the heart of this hope lies a knot that needs to be untied. A desire for another person or situation to change and
Businesses – It’s Time To Get Personal
What creates emotional safety in business? In an effort to be less like lentils and incense, the mindfulness movement in business has been drawn away from its spiritual origins and leaned on neuroscience for validation; providing rational, scientific reasoning to explain
Life Is Not Linear
REMEMBER WHERE YOU STARTED FROM This is a tantalising time of year, a fresh start so full of promise. As the new year begins it is natural to focus forwards, but have you noticed when you do that often you feel the tension of not
Take Some Time For Yourself
My Instant Pause On the 17th July, a hot summer’s day, I descended the steps into a cool basement, known to me only as “The Fly Pit” (on the invitation email). A long table lay ahead, covered in a mountain
Create and Stick With The Right Meditation For You
“YOU SHOULD SIT IN MEDITATION FOR 20MIN A DAY. UNLESS YOU’RE TOO BUSY. THEN YOU SHOULD SIT ONE HOUR.” – ZEN SAYING Meditation is all the rage in the media these days. Big names like Gisele Bundchen, Russell Brand, and Lady
How Meditation Didn’t Nearly Save My Life
My first introduction to meditation was shortly after I moved to the US in 2006. I was attending a two-day workshop and one of the speakers claimed that he’d have committed suicide if he’d not been introduced to meditation.
How To Press Pause and Take a Tech Break
We check our phones an average of 221 times a day, we have apps that help us sleep and remind us to be mindful while we secretly measure our success in ‘likes’. Time is our luxury and yet with technology
10 Cunning Ways Salespeople Get You To Buy (And How To Avoid Them)
I was reading a thread on Quora the other day in which people were sharing tricks they knew of that car salespeople implemented to get people to buy. One guy shared a couple he was aware of (he wasn’t a salesperson himself),
The Secret About The Power of Intention (Hint: It’s Not Very Powerful)
Do you remember when the law of attraction hit the public psyche on the back of the movie, The Secret? Sorry to offend if you think otherwise, but The Secret was a travesty of a book/movie/compact disc/cuddly toy/whatever.